One step forward, a few steps back

Yesterday, I opened my doors to the heavenly aroma of honeysuckle.  But, that can’t be!  It’s too early for those tasty flowers to be blooming, isn’t it?  Well, apparently not.  A recent warm spell has indeed encouraged them to bloom along with the wild roses that have taken up residence in a thicket near the edge of my property.  The combination of those blooms and the Japanese Privet bushes create a lovely smell.

The fresh blooms are inspiring.  They’re also highly motivating, because they are a reminder of how far behind I am.  I have managed to plant a few things for my garden, and I did start cleaning up my deck from the mess that winter leaves behind.  However, I have a lot of catching up to do.

It’s not so easy for me to find motivation lately.  Health issues in the family have left me searching for something positive to share.  If I could manage to get a few more things on my to do list done, I would have plenty of subjects to work with.  Today, though, my thoughts wander to current events.  Morning drop off at my son’s school left me thinking one of the latest headlines that matter.  I often have frustrations about the car line, but today was a little different.

Warning! Rant ahead! If you are easily offended by opinions and musings you might want to stop reading now (and wait for the next post).The car ahead of me with a black family wouldn’t drop off their kids until they could pull forward to a teacher of African descent.  There could be a dozen reasons why this decision was made, so I’m not making any assumptions.  But, it did remind me of the increasing racial divide coming back to this country with a vengeance.  Although it still exists,  the Emancipation Proclamation in 1863 and the ratification of the 13th amendment in December of 1865 officially abolished slavery in this country.  In 1866, Indian Territory finally got on board.  In the 60’s, we fought hard for the civil rights of people in this nation and took huge steps to equality.  But, now look at us.  We may be able to elect a black president (huge progress!), but we are taking several steps backwards.  We are more divided on racial issues than we have been in decades.

As if we weren’t having enough problems with equality in this nation, now we have gender issues in this country.  My Facebook page is filled with angry people making huge assumptions.  It’s as if they believe that every person that questions their born gender is automatically a perverted soul and therefore evil.  Haven’t we learned by now to not to make generalizations and stereotypical comments about a group of people?  Apparently not.

Late at night, sometimes my mind wanders to weird things.  The “what if” questions often keep me awake.  So, what if the Hindus have it right?  What if there is such a thing as a past life?  Could those in the LGBTQIA communities are simply remembering their past selves in some way?  What if that’s why we make the career choices we do?  What if that’s what helps shape our goals and dreams?  But, I digress.  Blame it on the addled mind of an exhausted mom and wife who lets her mind wander a little too far sometimes.  But, who are we to criticize anybody for being who they are at their core?  None of us would want to be the target of any kind of discrimination, yet we freely judge others (although most of us were raised to treat others as we would want to be treated and to judge not lest we be judged ourselves).Take Target, for example.  People screamed when they put “sexist” labels in the toy isles.  Target was forced to take down signs for the boy and girl sections because America was offended.  Now we’re complaining about Target’s strides to avoid gender discrimination in the bathrooms.  Well, you can’t have it both ways, people!  Target is darned if they do and damned if they don’t.  For me it’s a clear sign of how hypocritical we all are these days.  We have become a nation of bigots.  How sad.  That’s not the kind of thing I want to teach my son.


The stupidity of some of these arguments astounds me.  Then again, we live in an age where we feel it’s appropriate to name a scientific research vessel “Boaty McBoatface” and a racehorse (jokingly) Horsey McHorseface”.  We’re making a mockery of the human race right now in so many ways.  A person is a person, period.  We are all a part of this thing called humanity.  Yes, black lives matter.  Law enforcement matters.  We all matter.  We are all a part of the human race.  So why are we dividing ourselves further and fighting battles, many of which were already won long ago?

I think it’s because we no longer remember our history.  In school, students question the subject’s relevance and don’t pay as much attention as we should.  As adults, we seem to forget what we did manage to learn or have no idea how it applies to current events.  My 8th grade history teacher had a mantra.  If we don’t learn our history, we are doomed to repeat it.  He was right.  We are repeating some really awful moments in our history because we apparently haven’t learned our lessons.  Shame on us.

Thank you for reading, and if you made it to the end without being offended by my musings, I congratulate you (and, I warned you).  I promise I won’t hold it against you if you feel differently.  There is lots to argue on both sides of these issues, and I get it.  People are scared.  Maybe we all should be.  But, maybe we shouldn’t let fear rule our lives.  Just saying…

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